NLP six step reframing
NLP six step reframing is one of the best old school methods to create more choices for any behavior.
The NLP six step reframing can help you to increase your awareness of your behavior or it can certainly help you to change.
What are the six steps in NLP six step reframing?
NLP six step reframing has the following steps.
- Select behavior
- Establish signal
- Elicit Positive intention
- Produce alternative behavior
- Solicit the signal that behaviors are selected
- Future pace and ecology check
What is the purpose of NLP six step reframing?
As the name suggests, it helps you to give more choices for concerning behavior. It can help you to change your behavior.
The purpose of NLP six step reframing is to bridge the gap between conscious and unconscious.
This means it brings out the part of your behavior to the surface, it makes you more aware about your behavior and also helps to see the alternate behavior which can help you.
NLP Six step Reframing process
Remember this process can help you to elicit alternate behavior by increasing your awareness.
Select the behavior
The first step is to identify and select the behavior you wish to change or stop.
The Ideal example for that will be the statement that starts “I can’t do this or that” or “ I need to stop “behaviour”ing (smoking), I just can’t do that”. Or “ I wish I could stop doing that”
Please note its important to select a behavior that is regular and clear to you or your client.
I had one mutual friend who wanted to get rid of the fear of darkness. While asking more questions I found out he had fear of tunnels, not darkness.
Establish a signal
In this step establish communication between the part which triggers this behavior with conscious awareness.
Imagine, if you can talk to that part and ask that part to give a signal, this signal can be as simple as lifting a finger for yes or anything like that.
If you are not able to communicate with that part or somehow it does not give a signal. Do not try hard. Take a break, try again.
If you do not get any signal at all, it must be serving some positive intent behind that behavior.
Increase the clarity of the signal, like brightness, color, volume, feeling, etc.,
Elicit the positive intention
In this step, ask the part to find our positive intent behind this behavior. Try to focus and bring positive intention into the mind.
You can ask, is this behavior serving something positive for me?
For example, A smoker may say he gets relaxation when he smokes. Here the positive intention is getting relaxed.
Separate this intent from the behavior. For that you can ask If there are alternative ways which are less harmful, will you be open to try?
Produce alternative behavior
In this step, ask your mind to generate three best alternatives for the same situation. These three alternatives should be able to satisfy the positive intention of the behavior.
There is no baseline of three alternatives only, you can select as many as possible. The three alternatives are suggested, this will reduce the feeling of overwhelm and help to select faster.
This step will need help from your creative part, the creative part shall be able to provide you the best alternatives for the behavior.
For Example, in case of a smoker, who believes he gets relaxed when he smokes. The alternatives can be doing exercise, or meditation or trying any other relaxation techniques.
Well, if you find more than three solutions you can select top 3 or top 2 alternatives.
Solicit the signal that the behaviors are selected
In this step, we need to confirm with the part (inner self) that the three provided solutions will be enough.
In simple terms check whether the provided solution is in sync with the trouble behavior.
The signal can be the lifting of a finger, a nod or anything.
This step is providing a bridge between the problem behavior and three generated alternatives.
The inner self should be made to take responsibility for using this new alternative instead of going back to old behaviors.
If you do not get a signal or confirmation, go back to step number three and repeat the process.
Future pace and ecology check
It should not generate another negative behavior pattern or have other meanings to the system.
To confirm that the provided alternatives are congruent with ecology, re-run the process multiple times. This process means a future pace.
Future pace this process in a real work environment whether the provided alternatives work or generate positive intention as stated earlier in the process.
If you detect any difficulty, mitigate it by re-running the process again.
This process work is consciously selecting the positive intention and the alternative behavior for that, I prefer to make the client write down both of them as part of early preparation of the process.
This helps me to take the client through the process smoothly. It also helps to break the ice with clients.
You can also help clients to prepare the small notes of the process as a reminder to the newly generated alternative behaviors. They can keep it with them on a calendar or fridge to remind them of the process.
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Things to know about NLP Six step reframing
The credit for creating six step reframing goes to Dr. John Grinder.
The NLP six step reframing process was usually helpful for psychosomatic behaviors, this helps clients to identify the underlying behavior and intention which is causing problems.
This process is considered an old process and difficult to conduct. Nowadays the majority of NLP practitioners avoid this process.
You can also use visual squash for similar kinds of issues.
I have tried to use this process many times but was not very successful.
Try it yourself and share your experience in the comment section.
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